GARANKUWA – "Welcome to the world of Aids, Kagiso!" These were the devastating words allegedly uttered by her boyfriend, that changed Kagiso Bokaba's life forever when she was just 20 years old.
But 25 years later, Kagiso Bokaba, a fearless 45-year-old from Garankuwa Zone 7, is standing tall and celebrating her journey, not mourning her fate. This single mother to a 12-year-old has transformed her pain into power this Women's Month, and is determined to share her incredible story of living with HIV.
Kagiso recounts the horrific day when her then-boyfriend allegedly infected her with HIV and cruelly delivered those life-altering words. "He said 'me and you are going to die together'. I thought it was a sick joke and cried, thinking death was coming for me. There were no ARVs back then, it felt like a death sentence," she told Daily Sun.
In those early days of the epidemic, before the advent of effective antiretroviral treatment, an HIV diagnosis was often perceived as an inescapable path to death. The absence of readily available treatment options magnified the fear and despair associated with the virus.
However, Kagiso refused to succumb to despair. She resolved to fight for her life and turn her experience into a source of strength and inspiration for others.
She sought counselling, educating herself extensively about HIV/Aids. Slowly, she began to rebuild her life, brick by brick, determined not to be defined by her diagnosis.
"I decided – no more hiding. I was going to love myself, take my medication, hit the gym, eat right, sleep well and help others fight this battle," said Kagiso, outlining her proactive approach to managing her health and well-being.
Kagiso's decision to live openly with HIV was met with shock and disbelief by many in her community. Defying expectations and challenging stigmas, she entered beauty pageants and modelling competitions to share her story loudly and proudly.
Her journey on the pageant circuit has been remarkable. Kagiso has been a Mrs Globe finalist, a Mrs Universe finalist, and a Mrs SA semi-finalist – all while living openly with HIV, challenging societal perceptions and demonstrating that a positive diagnosis does not diminish a woman's beauty, strength, or potential.
"I know exactly why God kept me alive – because I'm strong! Warriors don't quit, and I won't quit fighting for others," Kagiso declared, her words resonating with unwavering determination.
Even in the face of alleged death threats for her advocacy work, this brave woman remains undeterred. Her commitment to helping others living with HIV is a testament to her resilience and compassion.
Kagiso acknowledges that living with HIV for 25 years has been far from easy. "I had to read and talk about it openly. I love reading, music and beautiful landscapes. All I want is to leave my footprints behind," said Kagiso, reflecting on the challenges she has overcome and her desire to make a lasting impact on the world.
Her proudest achievements extend beyond her beauty pageant successes. Reaching the milestone of 25 years living with HIV is a testament to her commitment to her health and well-being. She also works as an actress and motivational speaker, proving that HIV is not a death sentence and inspiring others to live full and meaningful lives.
Kagiso's story is a powerful reminder that an HIV diagnosis does not define a person's worth or limit their potential. Her journey is one of resilience, courage, and unwavering determination to live life to the fullest, while advocating for others and challenging the stigmas associated with HIV/Aids.
This incredible woman is still here, 25 years later – and is going nowhere! Her story serves as a beacon of hope and inspiration for countless others living with HIV, demonstrating that a positive diagnosis is not an end, but a new beginning. Her life is a testament to the power of self-love, resilience, and the unwavering human spirit. Kagiso's journey continues, and her voice remains a powerful force in the fight against HIV/Aids.
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