Una Rams Opens Up About Love, Marriage, and Finding Forever When He Least Expected
Sometimes love arrives when you have stopped searching. For South African rapper and Grammy winner Una Rams, that moment came during an unplanned trip to a show in Venda – an encounter that turned into a whirlwind romance, a six-month proposal, and eventually, a marriage grounded in conscious love, respect, and vulnerability.
A Chance Meeting Backstage
On a recent episode of That Husband Podcast, Una Rams shared how fate led him to the woman who would become his wife.
“I wasn’t even booked for the show but ended up going with a friend,” he recalled. Backstage, he noticed three ladies, but one instantly caught his attention.
“We both were dressed in blue, which broke the ice,” he said.
Their first conversation was brief and awkward. “I went over, said hi, and that was it; words weren’t really flowing that day.”
What could have ended as just another backstage interaction almost slipped away. But Una Rams felt there was something special he could not ignore.
From Doubts to DMs
Ntando Duma, the woman who would later become his wife, admitted she thought he was “just another industry guy”. Still, she gave him a chance.
The next day, their connection shifted to social media. When Ntando reposted one of his Instagram posts with a heart emoji, Una Rams took it as the sign he had been waiting for. It was the green light to slide into her direct messages – and the beginning of a love story that would move swiftly but deeply.
A Date That Never Ended
Not long after, Una Rams had to travel to Ghana for work. But he found himself eagerly waiting for Ntando’s messages. “I even turned on DM notifications specifically to see when she messaged,” he admitted.
When he returned, Ntando picked him up from the airport, and their first official date began. That date, he explained, lasted all day. “We’ve been loving each other ever since,” he said.
Six-Month Proposal Raises Eyebrows
Just six months into their relationship, Una Rams decided to propose. To many, the decision seemed rushed, but to him, it was about certainty rather than timing.
“I’d been praying fervently, compiling a list of what I wanted in a partner, and she ticked those boxes,” he explained.
The defining moment came not during a romantic outing, but after their very first major disagreement.
“The moment it clicked was actually after our first fight, when we tackled the issue together respectfully. That’s when I knew I wanted to marry her.”
A Conscious Approach to Love
For Una Rams, marriage has never been about avoiding conflict. Instead, he and Ntando created what he calls a “fighting culture” – a way of handling disagreements in a way that strengthens their relationship.
“Love is an exchange of vulnerability and trust,” he reflected. “Giving someone access to your soul requires safety. Men need that safety, too.”
This conscious approach to partnership has been the bedrock of their union. Rather than suppressing emotions or pretending to be perfect, the couple leans on honesty, trust, and respect to resolve issues and grow closer.
Believing in Love Again
In an earlier interview with News24, Una Rams revealed that when he met Ntando, he had almost given up on the idea of love.
“When I met my wife, I was at a point where I’d given up on love, and suddenly here was this person who made me believe in forever again,” he said.
The transformation, he explained, was not just about romance but about regaining hope and belief in the idea of building a life with someone.
Fatherhood and New Creative Energy
Now a proud father of two daughters, Una Rams says parenthood has reshaped his outlook on life and artistry.
“What’s surprised me most is how fatherhood has made me more fearless in my creativity. When you’re responsible for little humans who look up to you, suddenly the stakes feel higher, but so does the reward.”
Being a parent has given him a renewed sense of purpose. His daughters, he said, motivate him to embrace risk, push boundaries in his music, and model resilience.
A Journey Rooted in Destiny
From a chance backstage meeting to building a family together, Una Rams’ love story with Ntando is proof that sometimes the most important moments in life are the ones we never plan for.
What started with two people wearing blue backstage at a Venda show grew into a lifelong partnership. For Una Rams, the lessons are clear: love requires trust, vulnerability, and the courage to embrace the unexpected.
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