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I don't want her back – Real Housewives of Joburg's Brinnette dumped by husband for being a nuisance


Brinnette Seopela's businessman boyfriend Themba Gezane proposed to her after 100 days of dating, however everything has just gone sour, amid alleged abuses and cheating on the part of the husband, but he denies any wrongdoing.
She thought that she had at least found Mr Right, and for some time, he lived up to that billing, treating her lavishly like a queen, dishing out grand gifts and romantic outings.
Their traditional wedding was a remarkable affair, and saw Kelly Khumalo entertaining their 300 guests. The couple's white wedding – aired on the reality show Brinnette stars in – was equally splendid, and the bride wore two designer costumes.
However, sooner than later her happiness turned a perfect dish gone cold.
Behind the gated walls, her marriage was far from the presented face value.
In an exclusive interview with DRUM, the 39 year-old reality TV star said she suffered abuse at the hands of her husband.
DRUM caught up with her at De Hoek Country Hotel just outside Johannesburg. The place where she and the rest of the cast of The Real Housewives of Johannesburg (RHOJ) are filming the second season of the hit show.
Presently, she is glad after having had moved away from Themba. Brinnette said he abused her just days into their marriage.
“We had just come back from our honeymoon in New York, and we had an argument. I went to work but because I was still stressed, I called two of my friends and we had lunch. At around 7pm, one of my friend said he was making dinner so I decided to go with him.
“Themba knew him and knew I was with him because I video-called him earlier, showing him where I was and who I was with,” she said.
She did not hide her whereabouts, but Brinnette said there was a match booked when she got home. “When I got home, he wasn’t himself. When I got into bed, he started a fight with me and shoved me out of bed.
“He screamed hurtful things at me and told me to get out of his house and that he wants a divorce. It was as if he was fighting with another man.
“He continued to punch and kick me. Eventually he got on top of me and strangled me. I remember thinking, in my tipsy state, ‘This guy is going to kill me if I don’t do something’. So, I kicked his private part to stop him.
“But it didn’t stop there – at some point he poured fruit cocktail juice all over my head and I had to sleep in that sticky mess. To this day, I don’t drink fruit cocktail juice,” she said.
She felt some form of delayed pains, after the adrenaline wore off, Brinnette was in agony. “At around 4am, I woke him up because I was in so much pain I couldn’t move. He told me he was still sleeping, and he’d take me to the hospital when he wakes up at around 7am,” she said, tears streaming.
“The nurses kept asking what happened to me. I had to lie because he was standing right there. I was scared. The nurses and the doctor could tell I was lying and when we finally had some privacy, they urged me to open a case,” she added.
Out fear, and thinking he would never abuse her again, Brinnette didn’t open a case. Finally she opened up to her friends because she didn’t want to trouble her mother, Junia Senne (56).
“My one friend told my mom, and that was the beginning of the end. I remember hearing my mom’s voice on the phone and just bursting into tears,” she said.
Themba beat her three times in the short space of months they had been married. He pretended to have had reformed, apologised and bought her gifts.
The situation continued on until her mother, stepfather, Simon Dube (65), who had helped brought her up, and her grandmother, Abigail Seopela, urged her to come back home.
“I suggested to Themba that we separate, and attend counselling to try and work on ourselves and our marriage. But while I was doing that, he kept bringing in girls to our house, into our bed,” she added. Brinnette stayed with Themba despite the alleged affairs and abuse.
The entrepreneur, who runs a well-known spa in Rivonia, Johannesburg could not bear it any longer, finally reached her breaking point in October.
“I was preparing to write a test that would usher me into a marketing course I wanted to study. I told him I was going home to study for it and would come back after writing it.
“Themba responded by telling me not to bother going back to the house if I go home. I left that marriage with nothing but my handbag and school backpack, wearing the dress and sneakers I was wearing that day,” she added.
She and Themba met through social media six years ago, he later sent her a direct message on Instagram. Her friends advised against hooking up with him, they thought she was not his suitor. Themba was relentless and she struck up a friendship with him.
They met face to face on his birthday in May 2015 and started dating two years later in May.
“After 100 days of dating, he proposed to me with 100 roses and a candlelit dinner. Themba was very romantic, I’ll give him that. I also liked the fact that he did things the right way – he first asked my mother’s blessing before proposing to me. Everyone loved him. Even my friends changed their minds once they saw how he treated me.
“He was so romantic in the beginning. He treated me like a queen, so sweet and loving. It was easy to fall for him, so when he proposed, I said yes.
“There was a little voice inside that said, ‘Maybe you’re rushing things’, but I chose to ignore it because not marrying him wouldn’t make sense,” she said.
Brinnette now thinks all the gifts and trips were a bait so I he could manipulate her and the people around them.
“The first time I suspected he might not be the person he portrays himself as, was at a party we were hosting. One guest came with their friend and he gave him a hard time. Eventually, he jumped on the guy, tried to beat him up.
“He thought that guy wanted me. He shouted things like, ‘You’re undressing my woman with your eyes,” she said.
Themba confirmed that he met her at his birthday party but said there was no interest between them. According him they struck up a friendship two years later through a mutual friend, Sonia Mbele, who is also the executive producer of RHOJ.
In September he proposed to Brinnette, and when her lease ended in October, she moved in with him. That’s when the trouble started, according to him.
“Before we got married, we had some major disagreements over the cost of the wedding.
“I spent over a million rand for the traditional wedding – she had so many demands for her dress and erecting marquees that would be dismantled the next day. All of this was for the show, to place herself in a certain light. It was no longer about us and our union, so I stood my ground on several things. When I told her, ‘I didn’t marry you for TV, I wanted a wife’, she’d accuse me of not being supportive,” said Themba.
The couple also had sharp disagreements regarding their white wedding.
“She wore two dresses, one cost over R100 000, and the other was R40 000. The flowers alone cost R400 000. I mean, how can you spend over R400 000 just for flowers? That’s not how I was raised. I wasn’t staying true to who I was,” he added.
Themba rejected Brinnette’s claims that he beat her after their honeymoon.
“I postponed our honeymoon for a week because she had had a miscarriage and I wanted to mourn. On our way back we weren’t talking. She was upset about the amount of money I gave her to spend on herself there.
“We landed in the morning and by the afternoon she was gone, only to come back in the early hours of the next morning. Even before we got married, she’d go out and come back at ungodly hours. Sometimes I’d complain about it and she’d tell me her mother didn’t give her such curfews, so I’d let it go,” he said.
After their wedding Themba put his foot down.
“I told her we’re married now, we must spend time with each other. That night she 'face timed' me to show she was out with her gay friends.
“I’m not discriminating, she wanted to show who she was with and that it was harmless. But a married woman at nightclubs on a Sunday night? Come on,” he said.
Brinnette said it was true that she had suffered a miscarriage. “Yes, I did have a miscarriage just before our honeymoon. It’s still very difficult to talk about f**k you up’, things like that.
“And that’s a pattern I noticed – he was very violent and rude to other people.
“When I confronted him about these things, he’d always use the excuse that he was drunk,” she alleged.
She was fed up about with his explanations. “You know that sixth sense? There was something in me that didn’t sit well with everything,” she said.
Because of her fame, she didn’t want to stay in an unhappy marriage. “I chose myself – I chose to love me enough to leave because I was going to leave in a coffin if I didn’t,” she said.
In February, Brinnette lodged for an official end to their marriage, which she claimed Themba didn’t contest it or appear in court for the finalisation in May.
“I’ve been free since, and I’m enjoying my freedom. Now I can focus on myself, my businesses, as well as the charity work I do,” said Brinnette.
She partnered with two other businesswomen in an eyelash business. She’s also shooting scenes for the much awaited second season of the RHOJ, where viewers will be taken on her journey of heartbreak.
Brinnette believes she’ll find her Mr Right one day. “I’m a hopeless romantic and forever will be. I still believe in love,” she said.
The magazine met Themba at a café in Kyalami to get the other side of the story. Themba said he’s never beat Brinnette up at any time, and maintained that they are still married.
They argued frequently, Themba said, often about money. “She’d max out the card I gave her for emergencies. I refused to give her more money to just splurge because we needed to watch how we used our money, especially after the weddings.
“She threatened to get money from other people, and I saw other men sending her money on her phone,” he claimed.
He insisted he never laid his hand on her, but Themba admitted that one of their heated argument became physical.
“One morning she came back at 3am when she said she’d be back by 11pm. I was tired of this behaviour and told her to go back where she came from. She refused and we had a scuffle – that’s when I pushed her and told her to leave.
“She claimed she injured her knee when I pushed her, but I don’t remember seeing her fall. In the morning I took her to the hospital, and she was taking pictures of her knee, telling people I abused her,” he added.
Brinnette went to stay with her parents for a week, later her mother and cousin sat down with them both.
“They told us to love and respect each other, and to live within our means. She returned home after that. But things didn’t get better.
“I kept trying to show her how much I love her, taking her out to beautiful spots for her birthday and buying her random gifts and flowers, but she kept secrets from me.
“When I found out about some of the secrets, I’d confront her, and she’d get upset and throw tantrums.
“In the short time we were married, Brinnette accused me of a lot of things. She forgets that I know so much about her and could easily destroy this image she’s trying to portray.
“All that I ask of her is to leave me alone – she must stop lying to the world, making me out to be a monster, because I’m not. Even the cheating she accuses me of, I know nothing about.
“I’m the one who suggested we see a therapist. I wanted us to address the things she was hiding from me, that directly affected me. I wanted us to rebuild trust, but she refused,” he narrated.
Themba denied being served any divorce papers. Brinnette declined to show DRUM the documents.
“That’s a private matter,” is all she would say. It remains to be seen if they’re legally separated, but according to Themba their relationship is now over.
“I don’t want her back. I just want us to move on and for her to stop lying about me,” he said.

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