Dear Amy: I recently found out through a DNA test that the man I thought was my father for more than 60 years is not my biological father. The DNA test also revealed that I have a half sister.
I do not want to be associated with this family and have decided not to communicate this new information with any of them.
I have several siblings with whom I would like to share this information, but I'm scared they will spill the beans to their spouses or others, and the "news" will be all over town.
It would be embarrassing to our family name as well as to them and me (my parents are both deceased, as is the "sperm donor").
Since I don't believe sharing this info will be of any benefit to anyone, I now have to figure out how to deal with keeping this secret for the rest of my life.
Sometimes I feel like I'm about to explode. The stress of learning this is about too much to bear and has made me see my mother in a very negative light.
She had to have known the truth of my biological father and yet kept quiet to save her own reputation. (Ironically, that is what I'm now considering doing through my own silence.)
I'm sure my father had no idea that he was not my biological father. Amy, he doted on me!
Any suggestions about how to deal with my new family secret?