He had the time of his life when he first got hooked into easy sex through Facebook.
Since April last year he has slept with over 45 women – very often more than one at a time.
But his Facebook addiction is destroying his passion and killing him financially!
The 43-year-old security guard night shift worker said a friend told him about a Facebook page based in Cape Town called “Bheja utye ikuku ekapa” which means “pay and get a punani”.
He created a fake Facebook account and followed the page.
He said he inboxed the admin saying he wanted to have sex with chubby women and gave the admin his WhatsApp number.
“I was flooded with messages!” he said. “I ended up giving three women my address and two of them came and we had sex all night,” he said.
The man said it was great but it cost him R300 each for the fun and games. His live-in girlfriend who is also the mother of his son was in the Eastern Cape at the time.
She stayed away a long time because of the provincial travel ban.
But his Facebook passion has now become a curse. He said he tries to stop but he can’t. Sometimes he even borrows money from friends to go and buy sex.
He said his girlfriend even left him to stay with her sister. “She said I stopped taking care of my family,” he said. But, worst of all, his sex drive at home has disappeared as he is used to sleeping with different women.
“I’m now used to different punanis, having only one at home isn’t helping,” he said.
He thinks that is why he finds himself back at the Facebook page.
“I deactivate my account several times but reactivate it after a few days,” he said, adding that the women who have his number aren’t helping.
“They send me nude pictures and ask if I don’t miss sex with them. They call me back and I find myself in it again,” he said.
He said his girlfriend doesn’t know about his escapades. All he wants is to be a loving boyfriend and leave the Facebook women alone.
Daily Sun spoke to his girlfriend (36). She said since she came back from the Eastern Cape in August last year they don’t poke like before.
“He gives me excuses. He hardly gives me money and we fight a lot.
“He doesn’t want to speak out so we can fix the problem. He’s changed,” said the woman.
Daily Sun spoke to a 27-year-old woman who makes a living from posting her contact details on the page. “I need money as I don’t have a job. I get more than R2 000 per month doing this,” she said.
“Some of the men are married, but it is a business transaction.”She said she used protection.
A mother of three from Milnerton (47) said: “I don’t want to commit to a relationship. We have sex and we’re done. He leaves, and we owe each other nothing.”
The guard’s friend who showed him the page said he didn’t know his colleague would neglect his family.
“Sometimes I regret showing him. I did it myself for three months but I stopped as I could see I would lose my girlfriend. My friend needs to change his ways because he can’t abandoned his family duties and please the Facebook women.”
Cape Town-based relationships, addictions, porn and sex therapist, Tendai Mushamba said the man must quickly get help.
“When you find yourself borrowing money to pay for sex it means your desire for sex has reached an unhealthy level. If he doesn’t get help, it could ruin his life financially and will destroy his relationships with those close to him. He needs professional help,” he said.