We agreed to have our privates locked so we wont cheat, now she's dead, I can't have sex – Help!


IN 2007 Israel and his wife went to a sangoma to have each other locked together.

But now his wife has died and he is ready to move on, but there is a small problem.


The 43-year-old Israel Mokoena from Brakpan, Ekurhuleni told Daily Sun that he and his late wife went to a sangoma to lock themselves together, preventing each other from cheating.

He said he only did this to please his wife and to assure her that he would do anything to benefit their marriage.

“I’m not a cheater. I’m just a friendly person and the ladies like me,” said Israel.

“Things were great at home and I didn’t even feel any burden of going through the process.”

But then Israel’s wife died in November 2019.

“I was really broken and I grieved. But then the time came when I needed to move on with my life,” he said.

In February this year he met a beautiful woman at church.

“She’s 11 years younger than me and she was ready to poke a week after we started dating.

“I was okay with that and it had been a while since my last poke,” he said.

But when the time came, his 4-5 showed no signs of willingness to work.

“At first, I thought it was because it’s been a while. We tried again the next week and when it still refused to work, I went to see a doctor.”

The doctor told him such problems were usually caused by low blood flow to the penis or a problem with the nerves that control erections, but told him he shouldn’t worry. Everything was okay.

“I decided to go back to the sangoma in Orlando but I found out that he had died in a car crash in 2016,” said Israel.

Another sangoma told him his problem was caused by the S’yofa s’lahlane muthi that he and his wife used.

“He gave me some muthi to bath with and other muthi to drink, but there hasn’t been any change,” he said.

His girlfriend,who asked not to be named, said she wasn’t sure how long she’d hold out in this situation.

“I love him but I’m against muthi and izangoma. Now our relationship is suffering because of what he did with his wife. It’s not fair,” she said.

Dr Guy Dean Petersen said such problems were usually caused by conditions such as hardening of the arteries, high blood pressure and high cholesterol or diabetes.

“These conditions narrow the blood vessels and reduce blood flow to the penis or damage the erectile nerves,” said Dean.

He said there are treatments for those problems and advised him to visit a doctor. Sangoma Joseph Dungamanzi also confirmed that Israel’s problem was caused by the muthi he and his wife used 14 years ago.

“It can be fixed, but it’ll take time before it all gets out of the system,” said Dungamanzi.

– Dailysun

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