THEY seemed to have everything: glittering careers in sport and fitness, three beautiful children and an enviable relationship they were always gushing about on social media. But that image of love and togetherness has been blown out of the water after serious cracks in their two-year marriage forced their way to the surface – and into the public eye.
Mamelodi Sundowns player Andile Jali (28) recently spent a night in jail after allegedly assaulting his wife, fitness trainer Nonhle Ndala (35). This came in the wake of rumours of alcohol abuse.
He was arrested on charges of assault and malicious damage to property and was released after he appeared in the community court in Hatfield, Tshwane.
He’s currently out on R1 500 bail and isn’t allowed to return to his matrimonial home in Lombardy Estate, east of Tshwane, where the alleged trouble started.
DRUM arrives at the luxury complex a few days after the incident and as we drive in we spot Nonhle in the back seat of an Uber. “She doesn’t drive her own car since the incident. She is going in and out with an Uber,” says one of the employees in the complex.
Neighbours and workers at the complex are still shocked by what happened on the day of the fight. Andile and the former Diski Divas star were fighting over money, they claim.
“We were woken up by screams and shouting on Sunday night. She always wants money from Andile. She wants to live this lavish lifestyle and Andile has to pay for it. She is too demanding and he is just tired of her demanding antics,” one source says.
According to news reports, Nonhle came running out of their lavish apartment to get to her car while the fight was going on and the midfielder then allegedly slashed the tyres of his wife’s car.
Andile then apparently got into his car and tried to drive off but crashed into a neighbour’s vehicle. It’s said he managed to get out and hasn’t been back home since.
“I don’t know where he is right now,” a complex employee says.
“No one has seen him.”
THEIR marriage has been in trouble for a while, sources close to the couple reveal. “Nonhle would have parties every day at this house while Andile was in Belgium,” one insider says. “His friends would tell him about these things and I think that was one of the reasons he came back.”
The former Orlando Pirates star played for Belgium’s KV Oostende but came home earlier this year. The couple have three kids together, including twins, and a child each from previous relationships.
Andile told IOL his family was the main reason he came back. “The hardest part about my time in Belgium was staying alone, calling my family on the phone every time. It’s great being back home because I go to my kids after training. I see my kids and I play with them. It’s great to be able to be a physically present dad and do things with them.”
But it wasn’t long before reports of trouble in paradise surfaced. “Things have been so bad that the two have been sleeping in separate rooms for months,” Sunday Sun reported.
One of Nonhle’s close friends tells DRUM the relationship was bound to end. “Everyone who knows them will tell you that. They broke up when she was pregnant with the twins but later worked on the relationship.”
But there was a lot of stress in the home, including finances.
“They have four kids in the house, how much is the medical aid per child? And there are also school fees to pay and food to buy – it became too much.”
The friend claims Andile turned to alcohol. “You would find him drinking because of the stress. Sometimes people just have to accept when things aren’t working out and move on.”
Other sources say the couple “always fight” and “it’s always about money”.
Nonhle accused Andile of choking her in front of security officers at their complex and this was detailed in her statement to the police, according to Sunday Sun.
Meanwhile he accused her of not sleeping at home, the paper reported.
Both Andile and Nonhle failed to respond to numerous attempts by DRUM to contact them.
Andile has opened a counter case of common assault against his wife, claiming she slapped him first. He is due back in court on 6 December after the case was postponed for further investigation. One of the conditions of Andile’s bail is he’s not allowed to return to his matrimonial home, says police spokesperson Yeroboam Mbatsane.
According to police records “Andile came home late and Nonhle didn’t want to open for him and that’s when the fight started,” Mbatsane says. He adds Nonhle had a protection order against Andile but could not confirm when it was granted.
Andile’s counter claim against Nonhle is still under review by the police, he says.
According to the National Prosecuting Authority, Andile “is alleged to have come home late and started to shout at the wife who decided to go and sleep in the car to avoid him”.
It was not the first time the soccer star found himself on the wrong side of the law. Earlier this year Andile was in trouble because of alleged excessive drinking.
In May he was nabbed for drunk driving, clocking 0,78 in a breathalyser test when Tshwane metro police officers caught him at a roadblock in Hatfield. The legal limit is 0,28. He was released on R1 000 bail.
“He drinks because he is stressed,” a source at the couple’s complex says. “After the match on Saturday [before the night of the alleged assault] he came back drunk. But his wife fought with him and he drove out shortly afterwards saying he wanted some fresh air because his wife was starting a fight with him.”
Sundowns coach Pitso Mosimane says the club will support Andile.
“Andile is a good football player and we are happy with him. Our job is to make sure that he plays more and better. He is in a good space and good environment at Sundowns. He is here to play football. If he needs external support, we will do that, it is our job.”