It is over a year since Simphiwe Ngema became a widow, when her husband, Dumi Masilela, was murdered. In a recent interview, the actress opened up about the possibility of falling in love with a new boyfriend and eventually fall pregnant.
It comes as no surprise that the thought of entering another relationship is one that she’s contemplated, but the television star admits that it’s not going to be easy for her to open up to a new lover.
This week, she appeared on Metro FM’s Fresh Breakfast show with Somizi and DJ Fresh. While on the show, she confessed that the idea of entering the dating arena is a daunting one.
Not only because it’s difficult to overcome the grief she’s battled for the last year, but because she doesn’t think many men can live up to the standard that Dumi set.
Simz said to the DJs: “That still terrifies me. I’m at that point where… I’m just like ‘You know what, people are seeing flames out there’ and I was spoiled, Dumi did everything for me, you know, and he treated me a certain way. And, for me, I think about that and I’m like ‘Yho! Is there a guy that will ever be able to handle me?”
The actress revealed that she still wants to have children one day and hopes that she will meet the right partner at the right time.
“It’s a difficult thing to think about because I’m young, I still want to have kids someday. So, I’ve left it up to God because I know the God that gave Dumi to me, is capable to give me a man that could be better.”
Explaining how her grief consumed her, the actress revealed that even the sound of her own laughter sounded foreign to her.
“You become comfortable in grief. I remember the first time I laughed after Dumi passed away. It felt so awkward, it felt like a foreign feeling, you know. It felt almost uncomfortable, like ‘why are you laughing?’. It felt so out of place because I was so consumed in the sadness, but for me that was the first step of moving forward with my life…”
Have you ever been through anything similar? What advice would you give to anyone who has lost their partner?
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