Singer and reality TV star Kelly Khumalo has raised concerns over victims of GBV who ask on the internet for help only after they have decided to leave an abusive relationship.
Taking to her Instagram stories, the star asked why those who tell the TL to keep their noses out of their business often turn to the internet for help after the fact.
“What I have seen is the survivor of gender-based violence, when things are going rosy in the relationship, don't want people involved, 'drink water, mind your own business'.
“OK, this is fine until you decide that you don't want him. Now you don't want us to drink water any more.”
She raised the question of when people should get involved, urging those in abusive relationships to speak out while still with their partner.
“I say you should still speak out, even if you want him and still want a relationship. Go for counselling, do something while still in the relationship. Don't just speak out when you have had enough of him,” she said.
“If you love him, help by exposing the problem. Sort out the problem, even if you are going to stay with him. But exposing the wrongdoing will only help you to find the light in your relationship,” said Kelly.
The star often calls it as she sees it, telling her followers recently that she will not stay silent because of her celeb status.
“I want to lay down some ground rules because I see people are getting out of hand. If you are going to talk s**t at me, my darling, I am going to say s**t back at you. I am not the kind to back down.
“This thing of saying she is a celebrity and won’t say anything back, se g*t. You are not my friend, OK,” she said in an Instagram video last month.
This comes after actress Enhle Mbali Mlotshwa had broken her silence on the alleged abuse she suffered during her marriage with the internationally renowned DJ.
In an official statement provided by the actress, Mlotshwa accuses Maphumulo of "gaslighting, emotional, verbal, physical and financial abuse".
"In the ongoing matter between myself and my estranged husband, Nkosinathi Maphumulo I would like to break my silence. I feel it is paramount for me to not only defend myself against the misrepresentation and counter-accusations being made but to also put an end to the cycle of abuse that I have continued to face at his commission."
Mlotshwa goes on to say that: "The extent of the turmoil I experienced in the marriage as a result of the abuse and the extramarital affairs were so severe that I was admitted into a facility and was treated for depression."
"I am no longer fearful, and it is with this renewed sense of self that I wish to recount the numerous incidents on which he has beaten, berated, rendered me broken and unworthy," reads parts of the statement.
The Rockville actress listed several alleged incidents, which included one after a Music is King event in 2019, and more recently at her recent 33rd birthday celebration.In 2014 at their previous residence, he struck her several times in their bedroom.
Mlotshwa also alleged in her lengthy statement that since the beginning of their divorce proceedings, Maphumulo had continually used intimidation and financial muscle in an attempt to silence her.
"I stand firm in my assertions, I would never exploit domestic violence and waste the courts' time for my own benefit. It is my sole wish to ensure that by me speaking out about my experience amongst so many other voices that a more determined and unbiased approach to the resolution of the scourge of gender-based violence is adopted and implemented."