1. No More Drama
Grown men who have their act together have no drama in their life. If you are dating someone who acts differently around certain people, like his guy friends, and acts another way around you when you are alone, look out. This man is going to run into a dramatic situation with you and his friends at some point. If you have a grown man, there is no drama.
Grown men know how to dress for the occasion. If your guy shows up in jeans and sneakers on a regular basis and you never see dress clothes, a red flag, he probably hasn't grown up enough to know what a tie is yet. On the other hand, if your guy is always in a tie, he hasn't learned to relax, buy him some jeans, and make him grow up.
Grown men know that not every day is a party. Sure, high school and college years are one big party, but there comes a time to grow up and not see everything as an excuse to have a kegger. A grown man knows when its time to have a good time and that it doesn't have to be every day or even every weekend.
Grown men do what they say they are going to do, when they say they are going to do it. Sure, there might be an occasional slip here and there, but overall, they are reliable. If you are afraid to make plans because you aren't sure if your man is going to be there on time or not, he probably hasn't matured yet.
A mature man isn't afraid to let his feelings show in public. He will hold your hand or give you a kiss in front of other people. This doesn't mean he has to grope you that is immature. A grown man doesn't mind letting you and others know how he feels about you. This is a fantastic trait and helps you feel secure in your relationship.
6. His Home
First, mature, grown man doesn't usually live with his parents. He has his own place and it is neat, not necessarily perfectly clean, but last night's dinner isn't in the sink. A grown, mature man will have some decor; again, not necessarily chic or what you would do but it won't be TV trays and a futon. A grown man likes a clean home and has some sense of taste in furnishings.
Younger men have very little concern about their partner's satisfaction in the bedroom. They have one goal and one goal only, their own pleasure. On the other hand, a grown man will take time to make sure you are satisfied before he is and if he doesn't do this, you need to find a man who does.
Everyone gets a little jealous every now and then. However, a grown man doesn't have temper fits or get mad when someone compliments you or flirts. He is confident enough in himself and the relationship that it actually makes him feel good to see someone appreciate that he has you.
9. No Bosses Allowed
You are not an employee and your man should not boss you around like one. A grown, mature man will ask you if he wants you to do something. He won't ask forcefully or make it seem like a demand, he will simply ask. A mature man will also understand and accept it if you say no or don't have time to help him exactly when he asks.
Men and women are different when it comes to showing emotions and talking about feelings. This means that even a mature man may not be as open as you are; on the other hand, a grown man will be able to voice his feelings in a positive manner, not bottle them up until he explodes. Avoid these immature men, they are passive aggressive and it can lead to drama.
11. He Has a Life
During a young man's early life, his favorite and probably only activities are women and parties. A grown man has hobbies and activities, things he likes to do that are actually fulfilling. He may hunt and fish or visit museums and art galleries. The point is that he has outgrown the party life and created an adult life.
A truly grown, mature man keeps in touch with his family. He checks on his parents and calls just to chat. This is one good sign that a man is grown and has morals. Immature men don't worry about their family; they are too busy with their friends and parties. Look for a man who values his family.
13. Includes You
If you have to ask your guy to join him in anything he is doing, find someone else, he hasn't grown up yet. A grown man will include you in his plans although it doesn't have to be all the time. Everyone needs some time with their group of friends. However, if you constantly have to ask if you can tag along, it's time to tell him to move on.