I am 23 and I have a problem. I am living with my grandfather. He never got married, but when he is asked how many children he has, he would say that he got two.
He is a hard worker. He worked for many years with the government, but he retired a few years ago. He always boasts and says that he is debt free. My grandfather is almost 79.
My mother, who used to live here with him, is now living in the US, so I am alone with him. I am at university.
I have a friend (21) who broke up with her boyfriend and he put her out of his apartment. She didn't have anywhere to go, so she asked if she could stay with me.
I asked my grandfather if she could stay with us and he said yes, if she is a well-behaving girl.
From the time this girl came into this house, she had an eye on my grandfather. She would offer to do things for my grandfather, like make coffee for him in the morning.
At first I thought she was just being good to him, but when I saw that she would wear butt riders (very short shorts) and my grandfather wouldn't say anything, I became concerned.
I tried to tell her that when I am not at home, she should go and stay with other people or go to the library, but she ignored me.
I am a woman and I have had my boyfriends. I know when a woman is doing things to attract a man.
I suspected that she got sexually involved with my grandfather and I asked her and she denied it. She even said that my thoughts were filthy.
To cut a long story short, this girl is now two and half months pregnant for my grandfather. I asked her if my grandfather raped her and she said no, and if I want to call it rape, then she was the one who raped him.
I am so ashamed. I want to tell my mother, but she is the type of person who would come to SA and beat the baby out of her.
I asked my grandfather if the child is his and he said if the girl says it is so, then, it is so.
This girl is not sorry that she got pregnant for a man who is almost 4 times her age. Her ex-boyfriend used to say that she is bad. Now I can see that she really is.
She believes that she would get lots of money from my grandfather, but my mother's name is on my grandfather's account and my mother won't allow her to get anything from it.
I told her that she should not stay at our house anymore, but my grandfather said that she could.
Please give me your advice because as I see it, this girl is here to destroy our family.